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The Rules of Parenting

The Rules of Parenting

Author(s):
  • Richard Templar
  • Author: Richard Templar
    • ISBN:9789352862344
    • 10 Digit ISBN:9352862341
    • Price:Rs. 399.00
    • Pages:296
    • Imprint:Pearson Education
    • Binding:Paperback
    • Status:Available


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    The Rules of parenting are the golden principles that will guide you smoothly through the everyday challenges of raising children. In this new edition, Richard Templar has added 10 new Rules to help you bring your whole family - across all the generations - even closer together.

     

    Table of Content

    Introduction
    Rules for staying sane
    1 Relax
    2 No one is perfect
    3 Be content
    4 Know what you're good at
    5 Almost any rule can be broken occasionally
    6 Don't try to do everything
    7 You don't have to follow every piece of advice you get (including this one)
    8 It's normal to want to escape
    9 You're allowed to hide from your kids
    10 Parents are people too
    11 Don't ignore your relationship with your partner
    Attitude Rules
    12 Love is not enough
    13 Every recipe needs different ingredients
    14 Anything extreme is almost certainly wrong
    15 Look pleased to see them
    16 Treat your child with respect
    17 Enjoy their company
    18 It's not about you - it's about them
    19 Being tidy isn't as important as you think
    20 Good parenting is calculated risk taking
    21 Keep your worries to yourself
    22 See things from their point of view
    23 Parenting is not a competitive sport
    24 Never emotionally blackmail them
    Everyday Rules
    25 Let them get on with it
    26 Let them go (wild)
    27 Teach them to think for themselves
    28 Use praise wisely
    29 Make sure they know what's important
    30 Show them how to lose
    31 Know the value of boundaries
    32 Bribery doesn't have to be bad
    33 Moods are catching
    34 You're setting their eating patterns for life
    35 Communicate
    36 Set clear targets
    37 Don't be a nag
    Discipline Rules
    38 Present a united front
    39 Carrots beat sticks
    40 Be consistent
    41 Lighten up
    42 Focus on the problem, not the person
    43 Don't paint yourself into a corner
    44 If you lose your temper, you're the loser
    45 Apologise if you get it wrong
    46 Let them back in
    47 The right of expression
    Personality Rules
    48 Find what incentives work for your child
    49 Every child should have something they know they're good at
    50 Learn to appreciate the qualities that remind you of someone else
    51 Look for the similarities between you
    52 Find qualities to admire in them
    53 Let them be better than you
    54 Their attitude is as important as their achievements
    55 Keep your fears and insecurities to yourself
    56 Mind your programming
    57 Don't try to have a perfect child
    Sibling Rules
    58 Give them each other
    59 Recognize that squabbling is healthy (within reason)
    60 Teach them to sort out their own arguments
    61 Work as a team
    62 Let them entertain each other
    63 Never compare children with each other
    64 Different children need different rules
    65 Don't have a favourite
    66 Mix and match
    67 Find each child's strengths
    School Rules
    68 Schooling isn't the same as education
    69 School comes as a package
    70 Fight your child's corner
    71 Bullying is always serious
    72 Teach them to stand up for themselves
    73 Put up with friends of theirs you don't like
    74 Remember you're their parent, not their teacher
    75 Don't mollycoddle them
    76 Let up the pressure
    77 They have to live with their choices (and it's OK)
     Teenage Rules
    78 Don't panic
    79 Remember Newton's Third Law
    80 Give them a voice
    81 Don't look under the mattress
    82 Running round after them doesn't help anybody
    83 Don't stand in front of a speeding train
    84 Yelling isn't the answer
    85 Let them have the last word
    86 Everything comes with strings
    87 Show some respect for the things they care about
    88 Adopt a healthy attitude to sex
     Crisis Rules
    89 Don't use your kids as ammunition
    90 Let them cope in their own way
    91 Being younger doesn't necessarily speed everything up
    92 The aftershock can last forever
    93 Tell them what's going on
    94 Teach them to fail successfully
    95 It's better to agree than to be right
    96 All of your actions speak louder than any of your words
    97 Make sure they know they're priority no. 1
    98 You can't fix everything
     Grown-up Rules
    99 Back off
    100 Wait until they ask for advice
    101 Treat them as adults
    102 Don't try to be their best friend
    103 Encourage them regardless
    104 You can't choose who your children love
    105 Leave the strings off
    106 Don't guilt-trip them
    107 Remember they still need you
    108 It's not your fault
    109 Once a parent, always a parent

    Salient Features

    Rules about your parents
    1 Don't put them on a pedestal
    2 Let them be grandparents
    3 Don't ask too much of them
    4 Don't guilt-trip them - even by mistake
    5 Learn to share
    6 They're new to this too
    7 Understand that they don't come from the same place as you
    8 Any grandparent is better than no grandparent
    9 Don't bad-mouth them in front of the kids
    10 They love you just like you love your kids.